Back to School: Returning to School with Mental Health in Mind
While the return to school can be an exciting time, it can also bring challenges for students of all ages. Transitioning from the relaxed pace of summer to the structure of school can be stressful, with each student experiencing this shift differently. Children may be moving from primary to elementary school, from elementary to high school, or starting a post-secondary program. For many military families, it might be a student's first time at a new school, in a new community, or even a new country. It can be especially difficult for students who experienced challenges in the previous school year or who live with learning disabilities, anxiety, depression, or other mental health disorders.
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Establish or Re-establish Routines
Routines help children feel a sense of predictability and security—especially important when facing new experiences and changes. Don’t wait until the night before school starts to implement earlier bedtimes, wake-up calls, or screen-time limits. Gradually reintroduce familiar routines a few weeks ahead. Involving children in creating or adjusting the routine can encourage better cooperation. For example, if they help plan their bedtime routine (within reason), they’re more likely to follow it.
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Have a Trial Run
If your child is new to a community, transitioning between schools, or had difficulties the previous year, a “dry run” can help ease their anxiety. Visiting the school in advance gives them a chance to become familiar with the building, grounds, and classroom locations.
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Avoid Projecting Your Anxiety
Anxiety often runs in families. If a child sees their parent exhibiting stress about the return to school, they may also become anxious. Try to model calm and confident behaviour. Be mindful of how you ask about social connections—questions like “Have you made any friends yet?” can cause undue pressure. Instead, try neutral prompts like “How was your day?” or “Tell me three good things about your day.” These encourage open communication without feelings of shame or disappointment.
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Understand Their Developing Brains
As children grow, their brains change—especially during the teenage years. This period often includes risk-taking behaviours and the emergence of anxiety, depression, or substance use issues. It’s a vulnerable time, and open lines of communication are critical. Ask questions, but more importantly, listen. Try: “Is there anything you’re worried about?” or “What do you find stressful about going back to school?”
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Promote Self-Care
Good sleep hygiene, regular exercise, and balanced nutrition are vital for managing stress. Children who are well-rested, physically active, and eating well are better equipped to handle challenges and are more resilient.
- Written by Marion Hall, BSW, RSW
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